You and I have the privilege to do for others what God does for us. How do we show people that we believe in them?
Nothing takes the place of your presence. Letters are nice. Phone calls are special, but being there in the flesh sends a message.
Do you believe in your kids? Then show up. Show up at their games. Show up at their plays. Show up at their recitals. It may not be possible to make each one, but it's sure worth the effort. Do you believe in your friends?
Then show up. Show up at their graduations and weddings. Spend time with them. You want to bring out the best in someone? Then show up.
You don't have to speak to encourage. The Bible says, "It is best to listen much, speak little" (James 1:19 TLB). We tend to speak much and listen little. There is a time to speak. But there is also a time to be quiet. That's what my father did.
Dropping a fly ball may not be a big deal to most people, but if you are thirteen years old and have aspirations of the big leagues, it is a big deal. Not only was it my second error of the game, it allowed the winning run to score.
I didn't even go back to the dugout. I turned around in the middle of left field and climbed over the fence. I was halfway home when my dad found me. He didn't say a word. Just pulled over to the side of the road, leaned
across the seat, and opened the passenger door. We didn't speak. We didn't need to. We both knew the world had come to an end. When we got home, I went
straight to my room, and he went straight to the kitchen. Presently he appeared in front of me with cookies and milk. He took a seat on the bed, and we broke bread together. Somewhere in the dunking of the cookies I began to realize that life and my father's love would go on. In the economy of male adolescence, if you love the guy who drops the ball, then you really love him. My skill as a baseball player didn't improve, but my confidence in Dad's love did. Dad never said a word. But he did show up. He did listen up. To bring out the best in others, do the same, and then, when appropriate:
You have the power to change someone's life simply by the words that you speak. "Death and life are in the power of the tongue" (Prov. 18:21 NKJV).
That's why Paul urges you and me to be careful. "When you talk, do not say harmful things, but say what people need-words that will help others become stronger" (Eph. 4:29).
Earlier I gave you a test for love. There's also a test for the tongue.
Before you speak, ask: Will what I'm about to say help others become
stronger? You have the ability, with your words, to make a person stronger.
Your words are to their soul what a vitamin is to their body.
If you had food and saw someone starving, would you not share it? If you had water and saw someone dying of thirst, would you not give it? Of course you would.
Then won't you do the same for their hearts? Your words are food and water! Do not withhold encouragement from the discouraged.
Do not keep affirmation from the beaten down! Speak words that make people stronger. Believe in them as God has believed in you.
by Max Lucado